DO YOU BELIEVE you are failing?

So you say you don't have the resources, the time, the money, the career, the relationships... This is not why you are failing. You can get anything you want if you use the right emotions. You can become who you want, have whatever you want and do whatever you want to do. Whether it is for good or not is down to the power of your feeling.

Most of us end up doing what we want to do. What we want to do tends to be directed how we are feeling in that moment. "I don't feel like going to the gym" "I feel like indulging myself" and yet most of it is really lack of focus, not really knowing why you feel that way, why you feel tired, or why you are ill, or out of sorts...

The real reason is because of your emotion, how you feel, and that who and what you are is what you live every day. How you feel is the only reality you live by. If you had a billion pounds and every day you are feeling guilty and resentful, if you feel negative and unbelieving then that is the life you will be living. If on the other hand you are feeling deep appreciation for life and you live in a cardboard box, that cardboard box is a palace.

Emotions are like the clothes you wear – you put them on. Sometimes it is simply a matter of habit, like always wearing your favourite jeans. The difference is, these jeans are made of annoyance and frustration. Each time you put those on, you are going to just feel annoyance and frustration, then no matter how much money you have you keep putting those jeans on you feel those same feelings.

It's as if you have made a house inside your head to which you keep going home to. To get to your house you have habitual pathways, made up of habitual emotions triggered outside of you by people and events. The lights in your house aren't even switched on most of the time, it's just a program running quietly in the background. Sometimes though, the lights switch on and you can see what is going on inside you. What caused that illumination? It may have been meditation, you may have been present in the moment, you may be feeling in-love. So what are you are making inside your head for when you come home?

The most powerful thing is emotion, and how you feel is going to be how you live. The mind is made up of the imagination and intellect. It is there as a tool and it was never meant to be used as the thing that scares you the most. It was never meant to be the thing that kept love away, it was meant to be the thing that breathed life into love. It was meant to be how you create because how you feel creates the end result.

We just have to recognise that everything we have is because when we turn our attention on it, it is simply a feeling that will generate more.

How you feel about the car you have in the garage is up to you how you feel about it. The judgement you make in that moment, made on the comparison that other people or media are telling you, that we have been conditioned to, is a feeling and you are either living in the past, or living by what people say you should be living, or you can choose how you will feel.

When you choose how you feel about that car in the garage, even if it is a banger, you will love how it feels as you drive it, you will love it’s unique unpredictability – yet you know it always brings you home safely. And now you are creating more of that, and a cheque will arrive in the post, or you will win a competition that gives you a new car that is simply the model that you were dreaming about.

So, what if you decide that today you are going to appreciate what you have and who you are? Are you willing to give up the negative emotions, the reactions to someone else’s reaction in the moment for your own good feeling?

What will the result of that be? If you are feeling joyful, you are going to be a nicer person, you are going to be nice and feel nice to others who encounter you. In fact, the more in love with life you are, the more irresistible you are to others because now you no longer judge other people or events, and you aren’t willing to give up on those good feelings for the sake of someone else’s anger or frustration, you aren’t willing to give up your good feeling because your child left the house untidy, or what is going on politically, you won’t be willing to feel the bad because you want to bathe in the good feeling.

So what happens when we are feeling good? The magic of life happens. Things you couldn’t possibly have predicted or planned happens that are so unbelievably delightful. Things come easier to you and people and life is more fun. Life produces for you all that you are needing and wanting in a way that you can scarcely believe. You will be filled with great ideas and meet with the opportunities because of how you feel.

So what will the price be today if you stay in the mood that was created by someone else’s bad mood that was created by someone else’s bad mood that was created by someone else’s bad mood? Are you going to stop the chain of pain, the pattern and choose to feel good today? Your smile will heal a thousand hurts – because your attention is no longer on them. You make a difference… just by being you, for you and those you love and even those you don’t even know. Smile, and feel good because you chose it.

Be well and so it is.